Let’s Keep the Conversation Going.

I appreciate your interest in NORMAL: A Lifetime of Disabilities, Addictions, and Diagnoses. One of the most meaningful parts of sharing my story is hearing how it resonates with others. Whether you've experienced similar struggles, know someone who has, or are simply curious to learn more — this is a space for you to ask questions, reflect, and connect.

Ask me anything — about the book, the writing process, my family, or the journey that shaped every page. I can’t promise I’ll answer every question right away, but I will try to respond when time and energy allow. And maybe your question will help someone else feel a little less alone, too.

Submit a question below, or browse some of the most common questions I’ve received over the years.

Questions I’ve Been Asked Over the Years

Q: Why did you write this book?

A: At first, it was just for me — a way to process what I was going through. But the more I wrote, the more I realized it might resonate with others. This isn’t just my story — it’s our story. So many of us walk through life carrying invisible weight. I wanted to make space for that.

Q: Was there anything too painful to include?

A: Yes. Writing about my kids was incredibly emotional. They’ve lived this journey alongside me, and I wanted to protect them while still being honest. Some moments didn’t make the page — not because they weren’t important, but because they still hurt in a way that’s hard to articulate.

Q: How has cancer affected your relationship with your wife, Christina?

A: Cancer changes everything — not just your body, but your marriage, your home, and the very way you see each other. Christina and I have always had a deep connection, but the emotional toll of a long, uncertain battle with cancer brought challenges we never could’ve prepared for.

We’ve faced fear, grief, and exhaustion side by side. We’ve had moments where it felt like we were just coexisting, moments where unspoken resentment or guilt crept in. And yet, time and again, we’ve found our way back to each other — not just through love, but through choice. Through showing up.

In one of the final chapters of the book, I wrote this:

"I don’t know how much time I have left. But I know this: I’ve lived a full life. I’ve loved deeply. I’ve messed up. I’ve made amends. I’ve laughed until my ribs hurt and cried until my heart broke. And somehow, I’ve kept going. Not every chapter ended the way I thought it would. Some relationships faded. Some bridges burned. But the ones that stayed? They shine brighter than ever. So, if this is the last chapter — and who knows if it is — let it end the way every good story should. With music playing. With friends by your side. With the love of your life in your arms. And with your feet still moving. Because even when the world tells you to sit this one out, sometimes you just have to stand up, smile… and dance."

That chapter — and the surprise story that helps make sense of those dancing references — are my love letter to Christina. It’s honest, unfiltered, and one of the most meaningful things I’ve ever written.

Q: How is your health today?

A: As of the end of 2025, I’m proud to say that, for the first time in over four years, I am tumor-free following a successful liver ablation. That said, I remain in active treatment every 28 days, and this fight continues. There are unknowns ahead, but today is a win — and I’ll take it.

Q: Do you believe in therapy?

A: 100%. Therapy helped me make some of the most important decisions of my life, including the move to Florida and how I view purpose and progress. One therapist said to me, “Why do you need to change the world? Why can’t you focus on changing your world?” That has stuck with me.

Q: What does “normal” mean to you now?

A: It changes every day. For me, “normal” means showing up. For treatment, for family dinners, for late-night laughs. Some days it means survival. Some days it means joy. There is no single definition — and that’s kind of the point.

Q: Do you regret anything you wrote?

A: No — but I was scared to publish some of it. Writing about family, addiction, estrangement… it’s not easy. But honesty was the promise I made to myself when I started this, and I stand by that.

Q: What advice do you have for someone just starting their cancer journey?

A: Let yourself feel everything. But don’t stay stuck in fear. Find your people. Let them help. Ask for support — from professionals, from friends, from whoever makes you feel seen. And celebrate the little wins. They matter more than you think.

Q: How do you want to be remembered?

A: As a good husband, father, and friend, and as someone who chose love and laughter, even when life made both hard to find.